Do Yourself a Favour, Forgive Others

 Rinku_Topper logged into the Zoom call.

‘Hi Rahul,’ she said, speaking to Furious2001. ‘What’s with your login name?’

‘I’m furious,’ said Furious2001. ‘My brother used my laptop. He knows I’m very possessive about it. I’m so mad I haven’t spoken to him for a week.’

‘Why don’t you use the techniques taught by our relationship expert last week?’ said Rinku_Topper. ‘Gratitude, Forgiveness...’

‘I tried,’ said Furious2001. ‘I’m not able to forgive.’

Jeeves19 logged in. ‘Hi Furious2001 and Rinku_Topper. What’s up?’

‘Hi Rakesh bhaiyya,’ said Rinku_Topper. ‘Furious2001 isn’t able to forgive. Need help.’

‘Why should I forgive him and set him free?’ said Furious2001. ‘I want him to suffer like I’m suffering.’

‘Really? Who’s suffering now?’ asked Jeeves19. ‘Him or You?’

‘Me,’ said Furious2001.

‘Exactly,’ said Jeeves19. ‘Forgiveness isn’t condoning what he did or letting him go free. It’s dropping an unnecessary burden you’ve chosen to carry. By forgiving him, you’re doing yourself a favour, not him. Most likely he’s not even thinking about it.’

‘Really?’ asked Furious2001. ‘That’s crazy. But how to forgive him? I don’t want to talk to him.’

‘Arre Furious 2001,’ said Rinku_Topper. ‘Remember what maam said. You don’t have to do anything directly with him. Just change your energy.’

‘How?’ asked Furious2001.

‘First, be willing to forgive,’ said Rinku_Topper referring to her notes. ‘Then use this technique. Sit in a quiet place. Visualize whoever you want to forgive sitting on a stage in a darkened theatre. Visualize good things happening to him. See him smiling and happy. After you feel your energy changing, repeat the same process. With yourself. Visualise good things happening to you, see yourself smiling and happy. You’ll find your energy changing.’

‘That’s all?’ asked Furious2001.

‘Yes,’ said Jeeves19. ‘Forgiveness releases you from the past. You’ll be in a better state to deal with the situation, with your brother if required. Unforgiveness is a dangerous burden that blocks your energy and flow in your life. The sooner you drop this burden you’re carrying under the wrong impression that you’re hurting someone else, the better it is for you.’

‘Bhaiyya,’ said Rinku_Topper. ‘You mean when things are stuck, there’s a block in energy?’

‘Yes,’ said Jeeves19. ‘Imagine clean energy flowing through you. Then your filter gets clogged with stuff you’re holding on to – unforgiveness, resentment, hurt etc. You’ll lose energy, flow, right? It’ll affect everything in your life. Clean your filter with forgiveness and the flow’s back. You can free yourself right now, if you want to.’

 ‘Wow,’ said Furious2001. ‘I’m going to forgive everyone I’m upset with and clean up my filter. I’m changing my login name to ForgivenessFarishta.

Pro Tip: Unforgiveness keeps you stuck in the past. Forgive others for your own sake. Forgiveness helps you drop the burden, clears blocked energy and lets life to flow easily through you.

 

 

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