Your Beliefs Create Your Reality

 ‘Bhaiyya, is mental preparation really important to succeed?’ asked Rahul. ‘Are our thoughts so powerful?’

‘Very,’ said Rakesh.  ‘You see, we tend to believe in some random thoughts as truths. Over time these thoughts become deep rooted beliefs. For example if someone calls us a failure once, we could start believing it to be true for the rest of our life.’

‘But what we believe could be based on our past experience na bhaiyya?’ asked Rinku.

‘Only till then, not for life,’ said Rakesh. ‘Everything can be changed Rinku. These wrong assumptions over time become our core negative and positive beliefs and affect our results.’

‘How bhaiyya?’ asked Rahul.

‘For example, if we missed a reward by one mark, we label ourselves unlucky,’ said Rakesh. ‘The incident happens once, but we brand ourselves for life. The more we think and talk about it, the stronger our false belief becomes. It grows like a wall between you and your results and thwarts all your conscious efforts. It starts determining your reality.’

‘I have no such beliefs bhaiyya,’ said Rahul.

‘Rahul,’ said Rakesh. ‘Most of our beliefs are subconscious. Our conscious mind may want success, but our subconscious mind, which constitutes 90% of our brain power, may believe strongly that we will never succeed. Guess who wins? The subconscious of course. That’s why they say mental preparation is most important.’

‘But how to identify our beliefs bhaiyya?’ asked Rinku.

‘Analyse your reality objectively,’ said Rakesh. ‘For example, if your reality is that you’re not finding success despite a lot of hard work; it could indicate a belief that ‘hard working people can’t be successful’. Also, be aware of the words you use, the emotions you feel and the visuals you see about subjects that bother you to identify your beliefs. In fact, they say that you see what you believe.’

‘Can we change our beliefs bhaiyya?’ asked Rinku.

‘It’s your mind, so you can choose to think whatever you want to,’ smiled Rakesh. ‘First, become aware of your disempowering beliefs. Then, replace them with your new empowering thoughts. Simple.’

‘Is it so simple bhaiyya?’ asked Rahul.

‘Needs practice,’ said Rakesh. ‘It feels odd initially, because you believe strongly in your old truths that you can’t succeed, you’re unlucky, unworthy etc. But start living out your new belief - that you’re successful, lucky, worthy. Focus on and celebrate little successes, change the words, thoughts and visuals you use. Stay in the energy of your new belief. When you starve your old belief, and feed your new thoughts, your new beliefs become stronger. And as your conscious efforts and your beliefs fall into sync, voila, your reality changes.’

‘Thanks bhaiyya,’ said Rahul. ‘I always believed I couldn’t make good chai. I’m changing it now. I’m the best chai maker in the world.’

Pro Tip: The beliefs you carry subconsciously influence your reality. Become aware of your deep rooted disempowering beliefs and change them, to change your results.

 

Exercise: Ask students to share their beliefs on the major areas of life – success, money, relationships, friendships, parents, health, morality. Discuss whether their beliefs match their reality and how. Discuss of beliefs can be changed and by doing so, change reality.

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