The New Phone Won’t Make You Happy for Long

 ‘Rinku,’ said Rahul on their Zoom call. ‘Check out my brand new phone.’

‘Wow,’ said Rinku. ‘But your old phone was good too. Why this expensive one dude?’

‘Because,’  smiled Rahul, taking a selfie. ‘It makes me happy.’

‘Interesting,’ said Rakesh. ‘Tell me, what do you think would really make you two happy?’

‘A world tour,’ said Rahul. ‘A Lamborghini, being the richest man on earth…’

‘A laptop,’ said Rinku. ‘Big house, fat bank balance...’

‘Nice,’ said Rakesh. ‘According to a concept called Hedonic Treadmill, we tend to return to our baseline state of happiness even after a major change in our life i.e. we get back to where we started pretty quickly. So getting a lot of money, buying a new gadget, getting a promotion etc apparently gives us only a short spike in happiness. What’s your experience with your new phone Rahul?‘

‘True bhaiyya,’ said Rahul. ’After the initial excitement, I feel the same as I did with my old phone.’

‘Wow,’ said Rinku. ‘‘Is it true for negative changes also bhaiyya?’

‘Yes,’ said Rakesh. ‘Even after negative changes like losing money, getting a bad deal, having a health issue, or losing people etc we return to our original state of happiness faster than we think. In effect, becoming the richest man or losing your prized possessions may not impact you as much as you think it would.’  ‘Then what should we do bhaiyya?’ asked Rahul. ‘Not buy new stuff?’

‘Not at all,’ said Rakesh. ‘There’s nothing wrong in buying a new phone, car, house, travel etc. Just make better and more aware choices for yourself. Knowing about the Hedonic Treadmill helps you choose in favour of what gives you long term happiness. You can choose, instead of reacting.’

‘Any pointers to how we should choose bhaiyya?’ asked Rinku.

‘Choosing what you do with your time and energy contributes significantly to your long lasting happiness,’ said Rakesh. ‘Doing things you’re passionate about, investing in friendships are a couple of pointers. Also, choosing ‘not to do’ things that bother you, helps big time.’

‘So, I can do what makes ‘me’ happy instead of copying others,’ said Rinku. ‘You know, I love teaching so I will choose to teach even at a lesser pay instead of running after a high paying job.’

‘And instead of buying new fancy phones because others are, I could invest in things that give me long term comfort,’ said Rahul. ‘Like a mattress or comfortable shoes. No need to invest in things that get me back to where I started in a few days. Thanks bhaiyya.’

Pro Tip: The effects of positive and negative changes in your life are relatively short term. You’re better off choosing in favour of things that make you happy in the long term.

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