Your Self-Worth Is Your Gateway

Your Self-Worth Is Your Gateway

‘My aunt wants me to bake a cake and charge her for it,’ said Rinku. ‘I love baking but I’m feeling very uncomfortable about charging her.’

‘Watch out,’ laughed Rakesh. ‘You’ll end up with low self-worth if you don’t value yourself.’

‘How bhaiyya?’ asked Rahul. ‘Giving free stuff is good no?’

‘Self-worth is what you think you’re worth,’ said Rakesh. ‘When you don’t think you’re worth much, you treat yourselves poorly. You’re like a seller who doesn’t value his product - others won’t value it either. But if you know your worth and quote the right value, others value it too. To charge or not is your choice, but if you’re not charging because you feel unworthy, then you’re in trouble.’

‘Does this low self-worth affect us bhaiyya?’ asked Rinku.  

‘Your self-worth is your gateway Rinku,’ said Rakesh. ‘It determines all that you get in your life. A low self-worth has a small gateway - it restricts your capacity to receive and hold things - love, material good, opportunities. Your self-worth affects everything.’

‘But we all come with different capacities right bhaiyya?’ asked Rahul.

‘Nope,’ said Rakesh. ‘We’re all born with the same worth. We’re all like hundred rupee notes that have the same intrinsic value whether we’re in a posh handbag or have been trampled upon. We’re worthy as we are, equal, unless we devalue ourselves.’

‘Whoa, how can we improve our self-worth bhaiyya?’ asked Rinku.

‘Since self-worth is your perceived worth, as you are, without external things, people or conditions, begin with accepting yourself exactly as you are,’ said Rakesh. ’If external things make you feel unworthy, get over them - do test drives, sip coffee at star hotels, browse holiday plans etc. Know you’re bigger than any external thing. Don’t deny yourself, have fun within your means. And start treating yourself like you’d treat someone with a healthy self-worth –through gradual but deliberate choices. It’s all about feeling good about yourself.’

‘I was confusing low self-worth with humility bhaiyya,’ said Rinku. ‘And healthy self-worth with arrogance.’

‘You’re not demeaning anyone by treating yourself well,’ said Rakesh. ‘A healthy self-worth changes everything. It helps you realise your true worth so you don’t accept any less.  Your worth increases as you treat yourself well.  You take pride and have fun doing what you love. The right things and people align around you. So Rinku, quote a price that makes you feel good, that’s fun - and double it. Stay with it. Your aunt will enjoy buying your customized, exclusive cakes.’

‘Eight hundred rupees bhaiyya and no less,’ said Rinku. ‘And I’m already feeling really good about it too.’

Pro Tip: Your self-worth determines what you allow into your life – respect, material good, people, love.  Increase your self-worth, treat yourself like you’re worthy of good things, accept nothing less, and things will change.

 


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