How the Dots Connect When you Commit to What you Love

‘I wish I could commit fully to one thing and do it well,’ said Rinku. ‘There’s so much choice and I don’t

know what to commit to.’

‘True,’ said Rahul. ‘We wrote down our passions but I’m finding it difficult to commit and give them

enough attention. There are so many things that seem to be more important.’

‘But you identified your passions after a lot of thought and effort,’ smiled Rakesh. ‘So why are you not

able to give more attention to what you are passionate about and commit to it?’

‘Because it’s not practical bhaiyya,’ said Rinku. ‘If I study hard and attend the right courses, it will help

me get more marks and qualifications. But instead, if I follow my passion of playing the guitar, learning

history or literature, what will happen to my career. I’d rather choose data sciences or surgery or

whatever, which are not passions of mine today, but at least I’ll end up with a good life.’

‘Ah,’ said Rakesh. ‘So you’re not able to commit because the choices you’re passionate about are not

‘smart’ choices right? Your passions cannot assure a good life for you, while ‘smart’ choices will.’

‘Right bhaiyya,’ said Rahul. ‘If I commit to gaming or filmmaking which I think I am passionate about and

find out later that I made a mistake, I’ve lost everything. For example, I’m confused in choosing between

arts and sciences. I feel that my passion lies in the arts, but I have to pick sciences because it will give me

a better career. How then?’

‘Excellent question,’ said Rakesh. ‘It’s a dilemma everyone has – a life of passion, or a secure life. Should

we commit to what we’re passionate about or do something ‘smarter’. Clearly there are no assurances

either way. Just because you did data science or surgery or filmmaking or gaming does not mean you

will be successful – especially if you’re not committed to it or passionate about it. On the other hand,

work that you’re passionate about, be it food or music, can help you attain great success. Which means

only one thing – whether it is data science or library science– the difference lies in your passion for

whatever you are doing.’

‘But bhaiyya,’ said Rahul. ‘A career in music etc may take a long time to establish, to become successful.’

‘What you’re seeking is a secure life,’ said Rakesh. ‘Not a passionate life. In his famous commencement

address at Stanford in 2005, which is on YouTube and which you must watch, Steve Jobs spoke about

three things – connecting the dots, love and loss and living each day like it’s your last. All three are about

choices. Jobs dropped out of college in six months, leaving his secure option, and attended a course in

calligraphy which had no practical application simply because it interested him. But 10 years later, this

knowledge of calligraphy helped immensely when they designed the iconic Macintosh computer which

made Apple what it is. Though even he had no idea then, he said it all connected in the end, looking

backwards, and that nothing went waste. When he was fired from Apple, a company he founded, he felt

like running away, but didn’t, because he realised he loved what he did. He started again and built two

companies – Next and Pixar. Jobs says –‘You’ve got to find what you love to do and do great work. Don’t

settle. Keep looking. You’ll know when you find it.’ Similarly, as it did for Jobs, your dots will connect in


the end too. Like Hari Rao Sanghi from Bangalore who started a biryani joint because he loved cooking –

and ended up discovering a world class fuel saving innovation while finding ways to enhance nutritious

value in food. So dive into your equivalent of a calligraphy or a biryani class now.’

‘Whoa!’ said Rinku. ‘So you mean we can take courses that interest us and that we love - not just the

‘hot’ courses. It may not help us immediately but it will all connect back later. Right?’

‘Yes,’ said Rakesh. ‘So let’s say you have to choose between writing or welding as opposed to career

choices that offer a lot of scope and money. Pick what interests you and pursue it wholeheartedly,

because in the end it will boil down to how much you love it, how passionate you are about it. When

you do that you’ll learn how to live passionately, how to do things with love, patience and commitment.

And like it did for Jobs and so many others, your true passion or destiny will come calling sooner or later.

Nothing will go waste and all the dots will connect – provided you commit yourself 100% to what you

love.’

‘But bhaiyya,’ said Rahul. ‘Will I become rich and successful by picking my passions over the money-

making jobs?’

‘You will become exactly what you want to be,’ laughed Rakesh. ‘No more, no less. When we do great

work we make a difference to the world and to ourselves. In the process of making a great rocket or a

great dosa or providing a great service, we may become rich and successful as a byproduct – if we want

to. But the only way you can do great work is by being passionate about it, by doing what you love.’

‘Now I get it bhaiyya,’ said Rinku. ‘I’m going with my first intuitive choice, commit to it and give it my

100%. I’m convinced that the dots will connect in the end and nothing will be pointless. Thanks bhaiyya.’

Pro Tip: Commit to any of your choices that interest you and commit to them passionately. Give them

complete attention. When you live passionately, you open the doors to your destiny and what you’re

really meant to do comes your way. The first step is to pick what you love, what you’re passionate

about. The dots will connect in the end.

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